On a scale of 1-10, how important do you think forgiveness is for the Christian life (according to the Bible)?

If someone looked at our actual lives and relationships, how important would they think practicing forgiveness is for us?

How often do others hear you say ‘Please forgive me’? Why are these words so difficult to say?

Try to think of a current or recent situation where someone has painfully wronged you.

Read Matthew 18:21-35

1. How do Jesus’ words in v22 strike us? What do you think Peter was hoping to hear?

2. Where we refuse to be merciful, how might we see ourselves as a ‘king’ and not a fellow ‘unworthy servant’? (v23)

3. What does v24 teach us about our debt to God? How might remembering/forgetting this affect our willingness to forgive others?

4. In v27 the King forgives the debt long before the servant could ever earn it. How might this challenge our attitude towards those we think ‘don’t deserve’ our forgiveness?

5. How do you feel when you read v26-30?

6. What is the impact of the servant’s unforgiving spirit on those watching in v31? Who might have witnessed our unwillingness to forgive?

7. What is the warning of v23-25?

8. How might this passage help us with our own situation? How can we seek to move towards forgiveness without minimising sin or injustice?

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Santhosh Thomas

Santhosh is one of our pastors, with special responsibility for overseeing our small groups and various teaching and discipleship programmes. Born and raised in London, he has previously worked in churches in Oxford and Central London. He’s married to Jess and along with their three young children they enjoy sport, swings and meeting new people!

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